Last week we had a great discussion on pg 90 in the workbook - Looking at my Positive Assets
This is a part of the moral inventory that helps us remember our good traits, and maintain our balance.
We talked about making sure that we don't associate our label of ourselves as codependency as negative. The possibility exists that you could
change your perspective about this, and in seeing your good traits, wear codependency as a badge of honor.
We are compassionate
Caring
Giving
Loving people. We have many excellent and valuable qualities that make us who we are.
And a codependents, we share in many of these positive traits.
Now its true, that our blessings can also be a curse at times, but that is what we are developing tools for - ways to reign in our talents gifts or "special powers" so that they are never harmful to ourselves or others.
We also looked at pg 96 and 97 which is a chart of Incident Origins, beginning to search for the first time that we know we felt a certain way, the actions that led up to it, our feelings about it.
We had great sharing of some very personal, heart breaking and yet triumphant stories.
We talked about how through this process we are letting some of the bad stuff go - emptying our cup of this bad stuff a little at a time, so that there is room for the good stuff.
We are recreating ourselves.
This week we will discuss BOUNDARIES
Here is the worksheet and the link to the article I passed out:
Worksheet – Boundaries
List some healthy boundaries:
What are some healthy boundaries that you have?
What are boundaries that you have a vague understanding of, or that you understand but cant keep?
Who do you allow to cross your boundaries?
Why do you allow someone to cross your boundaries?
When are boundaries not important?
When are they important?
What is a good internal compass for boundary control?
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LAST WEEKS DISCUSSION:
From the Workbook – Lesson Five - You’re a Keeper
Pg 90 - Let’s look at Positive Assets
What are some positive assets, (emotions, beliefs, behaviors, skills) that You possess.
What are some specific examples of these?
Pg 96 – 97
Review the Family of Origin Chart ( another alternative to personal inventory)
Original Incident
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Feelings about it
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Belief Created
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Today’s Behavior
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and Discuss the topic “ Recreating Yourself”
“You are identifying and getting rid of the old things that hold you back to make room for life to deliver good stuff to you”
